"We can't copycat our way to style" is the lie I still choose to believe. If I buy everything she has then maybe I will know how to get dressed in the morning. Or, the more insidious, if I have her dress then my vacation will look as lovely as hers. If I have that sweater then my date night will be as romantic as hers appears. Again, so much "appearance" but no access to the reality of things. I love the idea of taking the thought hostage and reworking it.
Great comment! I felt the same way reading this article. I also think that copying others in this way can make people gradually forget their own inner feelings and needs...
As they say in the recovery community, "Don't compare your insides with someone else's outsides." I.e., I'm always worried that I'm not "cool", and I see pictures on Pinterest of women who I think look "cool" and want to dress like that so I can feel cool. But that doesn't necessarily solve the problem.
"We can't copycat our way to style" is the lie I still choose to believe. If I buy everything she has then maybe I will know how to get dressed in the morning. Or, the more insidious, if I have her dress then my vacation will look as lovely as hers. If I have that sweater then my date night will be as romantic as hers appears. Again, so much "appearance" but no access to the reality of things. I love the idea of taking the thought hostage and reworking it.
Great comment! I felt the same way reading this article. I also think that copying others in this way can make people gradually forget their own inner feelings and needs...
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Yes yes yes to all of this! You articulated this concept so beautifully- I am super PMSy right now and needed this lovely reframe.
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As they say in the recovery community, "Don't compare your insides with someone else's outsides." I.e., I'm always worried that I'm not "cool", and I see pictures on Pinterest of women who I think look "cool" and want to dress like that so I can feel cool. But that doesn't necessarily solve the problem.
Exactly right!!
Very thought-provoking! I’m guilty with the 90s sunglasses :) and love the reference to “Untethered Soul” 🩷
Someone pretty cool recommended I read it :)