I 100% dress for myself and my style is 100% my own. Also as a plus sized woman any compliments I might get are because an outfit is “flattering.” And that’s not how I roll anymore. My young nieces are the exception. I’m the “cool” aunt and I’m pleased when they like something I’m wearing.
Another issue with dressing for compliments is that it rewards constant churn in your wardrobe and keeping up with trends. People often compliment the cool new thing you have that’s of the moment and in the zeitgeist but there’s a quite content in just keeping items for years and pulling them out for the right occasion. But that’s definitely less flashy and garners fewer compliments.
I really resonate with this! Especially if you're a people pleaser, dressing for compliments can become a sneak compulsion that can keep you from discovering your true personal style. Fun fact, when I worked at an unnamed but very popular fashion media brand, our top SEO stories were always the ones where "compliment-garnering" was in the title. It's something people really seem to care about!
Yes!! I’m 100% pro giving and receiving compliments on what we’re wearing, just asking the question - should a desire for compliments weigh into our decision making? Or, are we setting ourselves up for confusion / failure. I say this as someone who does NOT desire to dress totally outside of the norm 😇
I’ll be honest, nothing lifts my day like a woman telling me she likes my outfit. I feel SEEN for creative self expression. If someone were to say “you looks skinny today” that would be a total turn off to me. So I think I do dress for compliments but only as it aligns with my own style anyways.
I 100% dress for myself and my style is 100% my own. Also as a plus sized woman any compliments I might get are because an outfit is “flattering.” And that’s not how I roll anymore. My young nieces are the exception. I’m the “cool” aunt and I’m pleased when they like something I’m wearing.
Another issue with dressing for compliments is that it rewards constant churn in your wardrobe and keeping up with trends. People often compliment the cool new thing you have that’s of the moment and in the zeitgeist but there’s a quite content in just keeping items for years and pulling them out for the right occasion. But that’s definitely less flashy and garners fewer compliments.
100%!
I really resonate with this! Especially if you're a people pleaser, dressing for compliments can become a sneak compulsion that can keep you from discovering your true personal style. Fun fact, when I worked at an unnamed but very popular fashion media brand, our top SEO stories were always the ones where "compliment-garnering" was in the title. It's something people really seem to care about!
Yes!! I’m 100% pro giving and receiving compliments on what we’re wearing, just asking the question - should a desire for compliments weigh into our decision making? Or, are we setting ourselves up for confusion / failure. I say this as someone who does NOT desire to dress totally outside of the norm 😇
I’ll be honest, nothing lifts my day like a woman telling me she likes my outfit. I feel SEEN for creative self expression. If someone were to say “you looks skinny today” that would be a total turn off to me. So I think I do dress for compliments but only as it aligns with my own style anyways.
100% to be clear - I still love getting compliments on my outfits! It's just not something I seek out anymore.
Totally! And I feel like I’m not seeking it but I do like when they come my way.
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